Essential Oils and Romance

Dana BaileyBlends, Healthy Habits


Love is in the air! It’s time to talk about romance, passion, and everything in between…the sheets *wink*.


*Disclaimer – I am not here to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition. YL products have not been approved by the FDA and the content in this class is purely for informational purposes only. Take what you like and leave the rest.


IMPORTANT NOTE: Please do your own research about these products if you are pregnant to determine if you feel comfortable using them.

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Let’s go over some key information that may be a refresher for some and new information for others.

02_Oil Safety and Usage



Before we get the heat going, we need to share some really important information.


Young Living Oils can be used in multiple ways.




Using oils in the diffuser is amazing for emotions. If you need a little confidence or help to get in the mood, your diffuser is going to be your BEST friend.


When you inhale oils, the essential oil molecules travel through the olfactory bulb and trigger the limbic system in the center of the brain. The amygdala is stimulated, which is the center of our sexual drive. This is why diffusing aphrodisiac oils can work fast and well. If you have kids or a busy schedule, the window for romance is often small and you need to get excited fast.  =) This is sometimes easier said than done.




Applying oils topically is another option. You can apply them to vitaflex points for the male and female reproductive systems: the outer right ankle for the female reproductive system and outer left ankle for the male reproductive system. The vitaflex point for the brain (which is often our worst enemy) is the thumb of the hand and big toe of the foot. Other places are fair game as well. Don’t think too hard about it. No matter where you apply them, they will absorb into your skin and you are good to go.


NOTE: Anytime you are using an oil for the first time, dilute it with a carrier oil* and apply it to your forearm to see how you respond. If it makes your skin red, you either need to dilute it further or avoid that essential oil.


It is also probably not a good idea to rub oils on your husband, you know where, if he has never used them before.


Never use UNDILUTED HOT oils (Thieves, Lemongrass, Peppermint, and Panaway) on sensitive membranes. This will quickly ruin an intimate moment. If you feel heat, just apply MORE carrier oil* to the area and that tingly/hot sensation should pass.


If you are feeling adventurous, you can take advantage of some of those tingly oils (Peppermint, Black Pepper) and have a little fun. Just make sure you dilute them. Recipes are coming.


*Carrier oils include any fatty oil: olive oil, coconut oil, grapeseed oil, avocado oil…




Young Living oils are PURE, which means they are GRAS – Generally Regarded As Safe for consumption. In the US, the YL internal/dietary line is called the vitality line. The vitality line has labels and directions indicating they are for internal consumption. The regular line has directions for aromatic and topical uses. In fact, Lemon oil and Lemon vitality are the SAME oil with different labeling and directions. SAME oil, DIFFERENT label. You can use all of them for internal consumption. Of course, if you are not comfortable using oils for internal consumption, that’s perfectly fine! Topical and aromatic uses are great options.


OK, are you ready to DIVE IN and get to the GOOD STUFF?

04_Low Libido


One more thing before we get to the “exciting” stuff. I promise, we WILL get there soon! Let’s address one of the most common sexual dysfunctions: low libido.


As many as 43% of women and 31% of men have experienced sexual dysfunction. And low libido is at the top of the list.


So if you’re feeling like you need a little help in the libido department, you are not alone. Many couples struggle with mismatched sex drive. It is helpful to get to the root cause of why your libido is lacking. A few possible reasons could be…

– Birth control pills.

– Menopause.

– Aging.

– Family problems and stress.

– Depression and anxiety.

– Trauma in your past.


It’s helpful to have an open and honest conversation about where you stand and what may be the cause. Then, I suggest getting rest and reaching for those oils to decrease any stress and to help you both meet in the middle in a romantic way that you both enjoy.


I’ll give you some great tips to boost your libido in the next few posts. However, if you happen to be someone who needs to tone it down to meet your partner in the middle, diffuse or take a few sniffs of your Marjoram oil BEFORE you meet up with your honey.

05.1_Set the mood early


Ladies, you and I both know that for women, sex starts before we even get into the bedroom. Doing things throughout the day to help get you in the mindset can be just what you need to turn up the heat later.

Let’s chat about some ideas to get you in the mood.


Ok, so I know that sounds like the polar opposite of exciting and sexy, but when your schedule is crazy busy, sometimes you have to pencil in those important meetings between the sheets.


Trust me, adding a little lace to your undies can make all the difference.


A simple “Can’t wait to spend an evening alone” might be just enough to get the wheels turning on the other end.


Use Orange, Sensation, or Geranium to get you in the mood. Apply topically or diffuse.

– Orange – Brings joy to the heart, peace, and happiness to the mind.

– Sensation – Contains Coriander, Ylang ylang, Furanocoumarin-free Bergamot, Jasmine, and Geranium to encourage feelings of love and affection when diffused.

– Geranium – May help release negative memories and take us back to peaceful, joyful moments. Also helps ease nervous tension and lowers the defenses that may be preventing you from being open and receptive to new ideas.


06_Pre party prep for ladies


It’s the night of your hot date and you need to get ready. If you had a long day, take a few whiffs of Stress Away and hop in a hot shower.

Lather up with some toxin-free shower gels and shave those legs.

Of course, the Sensation shower gel can start to rev your engine as you take in its floral scent, and YL offers other great options, too!

Here are a few popular bath gels for romance:

– Sensation Bath & Shower Gel – 8 oz

– Dragon Time Bath & Shower Gel – 8 oz

– Make your own special scent with the unscented Bath & Shower Gel Base – 8 oz # 3751. Add scent as desired, maybe that awesome Orange scent to help set the mood.


Silky smooth legs can change your entire demeanor.


Have you tried the Mirah Shave Oil?


Exotic baobab, meadowfoam, and avocado oils work together with the exclusive Mirah essential oil blend to reduce razor drag, bumps, and nicks. It’s also a great aftershave.


08_Skin So Soft



Let’s chat skin prep, which is just as important as having quality makeup. Just like makeup, inexpensive skin care has so many chemicals lurking in them that are neurotoxic, disrupt your endocrine system, and are known carcinogens. You can avoid all those toxic chemicals by choosing clean products from Young Living.


The ART Skincare collection is a three-step process with a gentle cleanser, toner, and light moisturizer perfect for aging skin. If you’re older than 25 years, I’m talking to you! Add in the ART Renewal Serum to create a smooth canvas ready for your beautiful Savvy Mineral Makeup.


By-the-way, you should be using toner every day after cleansing to bring your skin back to a healthy pH level. The ART toner is alcohol-free and does not dry out your skin.  I love it & have used this for several years.

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If you haven’t heard, Young Living now has makeup! WHAT?! Yes, you heard correctly. Savvy Minerals by Young Living was released last year and our members are going crazy over it.


There is nothing easier than a little lip gloss to make you feel like a lady.

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If you are someone who cares about toxin-free living, then you will be ecstatic to hear that Young Living’s makeup is free from gluten, mineral oil, nano-particles, metals, parabens, phthalates, synthetic colorants, dyes, talc, bismuth, and petrochemicals. It is also never tested on animals.


These toxins are in a lot of makeup you purchase off the shelf and can cause many health concerns. Check out the dangers of the Environmental Working Group (EWG) Skin deep site.


If you want something beneficial for your skin, you’re in luck. Savvy Minerals contain ingredients like Aspen bark extract, with its skin-softening properties and acts as a natural preservative. Bye Bye nasty parabens. Kaolin clay sucks out impurities such as grime, dirt, pollution, and germs from the pores. Hello, clear skin! It contains other gems like jojoba oil, mica, aloe, arrowroot powder, sweet almond oil, beeswax (in the lipstick), sunflower oil, vitamin E, and of course, pure essential oils.


Savvy Minerals are designed to…

– enhance your natural beauty.

– be light on your skin.

– look and feel natural.


The variety of shades and colors offers something for everyone. The colors are forgiving, making it easy to match online and you can blend colors to get your perfect match from season to season.


You can learn all kinds of tips with video tutorials in this awesome group on Facebook.

“Inside Out – Natural Savvy Beauty” –


AHH, I almost forgot. Ok, no I didn’t, I just wanted to save the best for last.  =) The lipgloss is infused with Peppermint essential oil, a natural lip plumper! This gentle tingle makes your lips completely kissable and perfect for a night with your special honey.

09.1_All about hormones



Progesterone is a hormone in the body that stimulates and regulates various functions. It’s produced in the ovaries, the placenta (when you get pregnant), and the adrenal glands. It helps prepare your body for pregnancy and conception, regulates your menstrual cycle, and impacts your libido.


Progessence Plus serum, also referred to as PP or P+, was developed by a doctor who specializes in women’s health. It is formulated specifically for women, and ideal for women over 30.

– Apply one drop to your wrists every night. After a week or two, you can apply one drop to wrists morning and night.

– Progessence Plus also makes a lovely perfume. This is one you want to stock up on because it is so popular. #HaveABackUp


Note: if you’re pregnant, you don’t really need this one. So save yourself the money and restart it when you have that beautiful baby.


For more information about the ingredients view the product information page.


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An important sex hormone called Estradiol (the predominant estrogen throughout a woman’s body in her reproductive years) is produced by the granulosa cells in the ovaries. Estradiol is required for reproductive and sexual function. Ok, I won’t bore you with the pathophysiology. If you want to know all the details just do a quick google search:


The most important take away is that a healthy reproductive system makes a girl happy. Lady Sclareol is an oil blend created especially for women to enhance the feminine nature and provide a relaxing experience when diffused. SclarEssence™ supports overall wellness with the properties of pure essential oils, including Clary Sage and Fennel. Use these two oils in your daily regimen. Apply to female reproductive vitaflex points or over your lower abdomen daily.


These blends are perfectly fine if you’re hoping these love sessions lead to a bouncing baby, but I would avoid them during pregnancy as they both contain Clary Sage which is typically on “Oils to avoid during pregnancy” lists.


11_Moods and Energy




If you are tired and grumpy, how are you supposed to have a romantic evening and be fully present with your special someone?


Dragon Time is a proprietary blend of Fennel, Clary Sage, Marjoram, Lavender, Blue Yarrow, and Jasmine essential oils. Its sweet, herbaceous aroma can help promote feelings of stability and calm during cycles of moodiness.


Dragon Time was created JUST for that time of the month. At least that’s what I am telling myself. You know…. to help tame your dragon. Apply to wrists before and during your cycle as needed or put it in the diffuser or in an Epsom salt bath. Your partner (and everyone around you) will thank you.




Your endocrine system is critical in all of this. If you don’t have the energy to make it through the day, how are you going to have enough energy for sex? Yes, I said it. You need energy for sex!


Your endocrine system is the voice that tells your body what hormones to produce and when to produce them. If your endocrine system loses its voice or has a shouting problem, then things are not looking good on your end.


EndoFlex™ is a blend of Spearmint, Geranium, and other pure essential oils that help create a calming and balancing aroma when diffused. It smells amazing!


You can also dilute with a carrier oil and apply EndoFlex topically over your adrenal glans (mid back) and thyroid (throat).

12_Oils that get you in the mood





This is such an important single oil in the Joy and Sensation blends to balance your male and female energies. It both relaxes you and arouses your libido.




This blend can help get your lady parts ready and really put you in the mood. If you forget to use it or don’t have it, there is an amazing tingle personal massage oil to play with between the sheets later on that can take the place of this one.


CAUTION: Do not use this one if you’re pregnant. Save it to use during delivery!




This beautiful blend is filled with uplifting, refreshing, and arousing aromas. Ylang ylang brings in feelings of self-love, confidence, joy, and peace, and Jasmine is very uplifting and may produce feelings of confidence. A woman had to have created this one right? Mary Young gets credit for this one.


Diffuse this with Orange oil for a beautiful scent and romantic atmosphere.




Blend of Bergamot, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Rosewood, Lemon, Mandarin, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and our beloved ROSE oil. If you don’t know Rose oil is over $180 a bottle and has a frequency of over 300. High-frequency oils are SO amazing for your health both mentally and physically.


This blend helps bring back memories of being loved, and sharing loving times, and helps us open up those blocks in our lives where we have shut down receiving love or self-love. That is powerful. Don’t we all need a little bit of joy in our lives?


Diffusing or using topical over the heart, in between your breasts, and inner thighs is a wonderful way to use this oil. If the scent is a bit too floral, feel free to add some orange oil to help citrus it up.


CAUTION: Avoid the sun for up to twelve hours after applying topically on the chest. Or cover up with clothes outside. The citrus oil can make your skin sensitive to the sun.


13.1_Oils For Men



Don’t worry ladies, this is where we get your guys on board. Members always ask, “How do you get husbands on board with oils?” I tell them there are two ways to get your guy on-board. Bring oils into the bedroom or bring home a pay-check by sharing your oils. “Men never say no to more sex and more money.” #AmIRight?


Let’s talk about some oils that spruce him up, get the blood pumping, and help him stand tall and proud. If you know what I mean. *wink wink*




This oil isn’t a SPRUCE for nothing. It totally spruces things up. This oil helps your man STAND at ATTENTION. I’m totally stealing that from Lucy Libido. Her book, Lucy Libido, is awesome by the way and I highly recommend it if you want to dive even deeper into this topic. This oil really makes it a win-win for all. Who says no to firmer longer? He feels totally macho and you get to enjoy it all a little longer.


Use it with coconut oil as a lubricant or add it to your Tingle Massage oil for a little extra cooling for you. Great to incorporate during pre-game time with a little play message. If he isn’t a fan of the floral scents then this, in the diffuser, is perfect.


Three to five drops 20 minutes before go time. Well, HELLO LADIES! Tell your guy not to worry, he won’t struggle with standing at attention long after the act is done. God made these oils and he knows when enough is enough.

13.2_Oils For Men


Go ahead, get the schoolgirl giggles out. I giggle every time. I mean is this name perfect or what? I think the name really says it all. If you’re looking for a Golden Rod, then this oil should go in your Essential Rewards order. Or heck just do a quick order RIGHT NOW so you don’t have to wait any longer. This one goes quickly around Valentines Day.


Ok so how do you use this one?


Typically, use it in a love potion. Use on his inner thighs and work your way up. Believe me when I say, this is a favorite among all the guys!



Let’s get the circulation going and the blood pumping y’all! Love making is a great cardio workout. Pair these two together and you will be rocking and rolling.


Dilute this one before you apply it to the skin. We are trying to make positive memories not clips for a bloopers reel. Your buddies would be the only ones laughing.

14_Your Shutran Man



Contains Idaho Blue Spruce, Ocotea, Hinoki, Ylang Ylang, Coriander, Davana, Cedarwood, Lemon, Lavender.


This one was released as “Cologne” but it is so much more than that. Have you ever heard of pheromones? Pheromones are behavior-altering agents. They are unlike most other hormones. They are ectohormones – they act outside the body of the individual that is secreting them. Most hormones just impact the individual secreting them but ectohormones impact a behavior of ANOTHER individual and can induce activity such as sexual arousal. Science is so cool. #LearnSomethingNewEveryDay


The chemical constituents in Shutran were made for a man to wear to attract a woman! #WorthEveryPenny


He can wear it every day like cologne to boost his confidence. He can put it on his forearms, his shaft, and inner thighs.


Some like it scruffy and some like it silky. If you’re the latter, then a Shutran Shave is in the cards before this play date.

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– Valor


– Hong Kuai


Talk about a little liquid courage. The one that won’t get you into trouble. If you can get your hands on one of these DO IT!


Valor, a blend of Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, Frankincense, Camphor, & Geranium. This blend, when diffused and applied to wrists and ears, will bring about confidence like no other.


Hong Kuai has the highest sesquiterpene content of any Young Living essential oil. Its scent promotes spiritual awareness and inspires clarity, intuition, and action. Diffuse into the air or use in a relaxing bath.


Hong Kuai trees are ancient cypress trees that grow high in the mountains of Taiwan. They can grow to enormous sizes and live up to two millennia. Hong Kuai wood has long been used in the building of temples, royal palaces, and baths because of its beautiful look, wonderful smell, and it’s natural properties that allow the wood to last for hundreds of years.




OH Baby I’m Ready

– 4 drops Sensation

– 2 drops Hong Kuai

– 2 drops Lavender


Confident Breeze

– 5 drops Valor

– 3 drops Hong Kuai



MISTER for your Mister!


I know you’re wondering “If this one is good for gals, too why is it called mister?” Well, this blend of Sage, Fennel, Lavender, Myrtle, Peppermint, and Yarrow was originally formulated for him to help balance the male energies.


If your guy needs a little boost in the libido department, then this one is a must-have for him. Apply this oil to his ankles and front and back pubic bones (pelvic area).


However, a little side note, ladies, if you ever get that instant feeling of needing to rip off your top because it feels like a heat wave just hit you, this one can be great for you to use on a daily basis.

17_Diffuser Recipes




2 drops Geranium

2 drops Ylang ylang

4 drops White Angelica (only available in an Essential Rewards order at this time)




3 drops Orange

3 drops Geranium or Sensation




3 drops Cedarwood

3 drops Lavender

3 drops Stress Away


18_Roll On Recipes



Put in a 10 ml bottle and fill with carrier oil.



8 drops Grapefruit

4 drops Lemon

4 drops Lavender

2 drops Basil



25 drops Lavender

25 drops Frankincense

50 drops carrier oil


Apply to areas of concern 2x daily for 1-2 months


19_Personal Massage oil



AKA Lubrication oil  😉




TINGLE MASSAGE OIL (AKA That really good tingle lube)


So many people report back, “He LOVED that one!”


1 oz carrier oil of choice

5 drops Peppermint

5 drops Black Pepper

5 drops Sensation

You can also replace Sensation oil and carrier oil with Sensation massage oil.





Lubrication oil that keeps you fresh and clean hours if not days after the act.


2-10 drops Ylang Ylang

2 drops Geranium

1-2 drops Orange

5 drops Lavender

3 drops Peppermint

3 drops Clove

3 drops Cypress

2 drops Tea Tree

4 oz fractionated coconut oil or grapeseed oil.



2 tsp Trader Joe’s aloe vera

2 Tsp water

1/2 Tsp glycerin

1/2 tsp Vit E

Blend and enjoy.




3 Tbs solid coconut oil

1/2 tsp beeswax

1 tsp grapeseed oil

1/2 tsp coconut cream

1/2 tsp Agave

20 drops Grapefruit

10 drops Lime

Melt the beeswax and solid coconut oil. Put in the fridge to cool for 10 minutes. Add coconut cream, agave, grapeseed oil, essential oils, and whip together.


Feel free to swap out citrus oils for your taste preference.


20_Thigh High Love Potions




Apply these potions to the mid to upper inner thigh.




20 drops Ylang Ylang

20 drops Cypress

5 drops Lavender

5 drops Clove (optional – add the spicy)

1 Tbs of carrier oil




20 drops Hong Kuai

10 drops Goldenrod

10 drops Idaho Blue Spruce

5 drops Black Pepper

25 drops Carrier (Add more if it’s too hot on your skin)


21_Passion Starter Kit



If you are not yet a Young Living member, let me know so I can help you get started with one of Young Living’s Premium Starter Kits or create your own starter kit with products that will turn up the heat between the sheets.


1.) Start with the Basic Starter Kit ($45) to receive your no-strings-attached wholesale membership. Your wholesale account will allow you to order all of YL’s products at a 24% discount.


The Basic Kit includes a 5 ml bottle of Stress Away, 10 samplesachetss, 10 empty sample bottles.


2.) Hand select your products of choice.


Choose between essential oils, makeup, skin care and other personal care products and find a few more excuses to get romantic.


3.) ENJOY!


Here is an example of a great starter set to have all you need.


Basic Starter Kit – $45 / 0 PV

Dessert Mist Diffuser – $63.75 / 38.25 PV

Sensation Massage oil – $34.75

Orange – $10.75

Idaho Blue Spruce – $28.75

Shutran Shave cream – $19.75

Valor – $39.75

Cypress – $19.25

Black pepper – $18.75

Geranium – $41.25

TOTAL investment – $321.75 / 251.25 PV


Receive FREE products for reaching over 250 PV!



Essential Rewards is a monthly wellness box. You chose the date you want to place your order and the products it contains. When you order on the rewards program you receive points back just for ordering, free gifts and bonus products when you hit a certain about in PV. Ask the person who invited you here for more information about Essential Rewards before you place your order!


IMPORTANT NOTE: You will have the supplies you need to make the famous Personal Tingle Lube with this order if you use the Peppermint from a sample sachet and replace the carrier oil and Sensation oil with Sensation massage oil.

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